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#SoL18 Selfish or Just a Mom

The days after a break are always so delightful.  No one really wants to be here yet.  I sent my son back to California and my husband back to Florida and TODAY my Grandson and Son in Law fly off to Mexico to meet my SIL’s family who is visiting.  I am fortunate that I work with my youngest here at the school she is the 2nd Grade teacher.  My oldest daughter lives here in town.  So I am blessed.

But it was hard to say goodbye to everyone on Sunday.  My hubby has been working in Florida since October and I have adapted to him being gone, but it doesn’t make it easy to say goodbye to him and get back to my usual routine.  My son has been living in LA for 3 years now, and it is still not easy for me to send him back when he comes.

I remind myself that, perhaps I am being selfish. I mean after all my husband has been away from his family in India for 9+ years now.  How must his mother feel about not being able to see him.  She doesn’t just fly him home like I can fly my son home when I want to see him.

I really didn’t want the school week to continue, I wanted at least a few more days with my family all together, to spend time with them. But they all have lives and like I said I am truly blessed that of my three kids two life here in town and one works with me everyday.

So am I selfish in wanting more time? Or am I just having normal Mom feelings?

Have a wonderful week back.

Monday Motivation

Change Does NOT Happen Overnight!

Thinking back over the past few weeks…I can’t believe I’ve been at this now for almost 4 weeks.  WOW time really flies. I really enjoy bringing you my brand of wisdom, my thoughts and feelings.

“Change does NOT happen overnight, keep working towards that goal!”

Nothing could be truer, we all want changes to happen quickly, no long drawn out process while everyone gets on the same page.  Just get on board and let’s keep rolling.

Some people take longer to adapt, even us sometimes.  It took me a long time to come around and realize I needed to step back and take a look at the bigger picture, change wasn’t easy for me….maybe…..MAYBE it was the “Old Dog New Tricks” thing….NAHHHHHHH!!!!!! (I jest)

But when we look at the changes we want to see in our classrooms and schools, sometimes it can seem like change is crawling along at a snail’s pace.  Be patient and look for those baby steps, the first small hint that things are starting to move forward.

Just remember what I said last week about consistency.  Keep being consistent.  Keep a positive mindset.  Look for the positive in every day instead of the negative. Do things for others without expecting anything in return.

Most importantly remember that: “The mood of your day will follow whichever way the corners of your mouth turn.”

 

Monday Motivation

Consistency

“Success does not come from what you do occasionally. 
It comes from what you do consistently.”
consistent
adjective
  1. acting or done in the same way over time, especially so as to be fair or accurate.
Happy Monday!
This quote cannot be truer.  When we are consistent with our students they thrive.  When we are consistent with ourselves we thrive.
Consistency leads to stability.  When children and adults are in a stable environment they perform better.
When children know that your word can be trusted they trust you.  Never offer something as a reward that you can’t follow up on and NEVER say something will be a punishment if it is something you can’t or are not willing to follow up on.
Reflect on how you have or have not been consistent.
Think about how YOU will work on consistency this week, with your students.

Grow your consistent behaviors for the remainder of the semester, and see if you don’t witness a change in your students and yourself.

BE CONSISTENT!!!!!!!

Reflections

For Better or Worse

FOR BETTER OR WORSE

So I have been mulling this over in my mind for about a week now.  I saw it on a daily motivation feed on Twitter and have been pondering about how to apply this to education.

We all understand where the phrase comes from.  The wedding vows, we promise to love each other for better or worse.

So I have been thinking as educators, we are pretty much in it “For better or worse”.  Education is what we do.  We don’t or we shouldn’t give up when encountering a tough situation with a student.  We confer with our colleagues and seek advice outside of ourselves, the same way we would if we encounter hardships in our marriage, we would/should seek counseling.

We celebrate the little victories of our students the same way we celebrate the big and little victories of our spouses and children.

We, educators, take so much home with us our daily lives invade our personal lives. Being married to an educator is definitely a for better or worse situation.

When I think about my tenure as an administrator, I am convinced that there have been a lot of “worse” moments.

As in marriage, good things did happen, but many of the worse things occurred too. I did not handle the stress well.  I had to take a separation period and reboot.  I took a year and a half off.  I walked out in March 2017, and completely left the world of education until September of this year, when I returned to the school I walked out of.

I feel like I have a better mindset this time around.

I am better equipped to deal with the stress as it approaches.

I am taking a coaching stance over a leader stance.  (I know coaches have to lead, but they know when to let others lead and just guide too, I am trying to be more of the guide)

I have realized that not everything is my monkey in my circus.  Sometimes I have to put the monkeys on another circus train, because they don’t belong to me, and send them back to their circus.

For Better or Worse, I am in education.  I will wear many hats, and put out many fires, and will deal with run-away circus monkeys for the rest of my career.  For the love of it.

For Better or Worse, my husband has an educator for a wife.  God Bless all the spouses of educators.  There is a special place in heaven for all of you!

 

Friday Feeling

My Words Came Back to Me

On Monday I sent this email to my team:

We are all guilty of having those niggling negative thoughts in the back of our mind.  Just listening to the news can make us have negative feelings about the world at large because there are so many terrible things happening these days.

We complain about the rain, and then complain when it is gone. We forget to see the beauty in a rainbow or the smile of a Kindergarten student that can brighten your day if you just paid attention.

Allah (God) has given us many beautiful, positive things in this world but for some reason, we seem to be focused on the negative things in this life.

Yesterday, I was feeling a little overwhelmed with life, and texted my principal and told him how I was feeling.
He very simply sent me a text back and said list 5 positive things you saw today.  He knew I was stuck in the negative and pulled me out.

My lesson in this is practice what you preach, don’t let negative feeling get you down, and the 6th positive thing is that I learned that he is paying attention to what I write, on the days I send out positive thoughts and inspiration to the team.

So right now if you are stuck in the negative.  List 5 positive things you saw today and smile.  Life is not all bad.

Monday Motivation

Monday Motivation

 

Don’t let negativity get you down. 

 

We are all guilty of having those niggling negative thoughts in the back of our mind.  Just listening to the news can make us have negative feelings about the world at large because there are so many terrible things happening these days.

We complain about the rain, and then complain when it is gone. We forget to see the beauty in a rainbow or the smile of a Kindergarten student that can brighten your day if you just paid attention.

God has given us many beautiful, positive things in this world but for some reason, we seem to be focused on the negative things in this life.

Today at some point I want you to play a game with me.  Find at least 5 positive things that you saw before you leave work today.  If you have already left work look for 5 positive things on your way home, to church, temple or mosque.  Then every day increase the number of positive things you are noting until it becomes second nature to see the positive with the negative.

Leave a comment regarding something positive you saw today.

 

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Thoughtful Thursday

“Never stop dreaming,

never stop believing,

never give up,

never stop trying, and

never stop learning.”

~Roy T. Bennett

 

Happy Thursday, Almost Friday Everyone!!!

Never stop believing and never stop learning those are the two things that stick out in this quote for me.

Belief in God is very important if stop believing in him and his message to us then we will not be able to attain the other things in this quote.  We WILL have given up. We WILL have stopped dreaming, trying and learning.

Never stop learning is also important for us in our faith as well as in education.  We need to be able as adults to say. “I don’t know how to do that.  Teach me.”  It is not a short coming on your part if you don’t know to do something, it is a shortcoming if you don’t ask for help and learn how to do it.  Education is always evolving and we need to learn to evolve with it.  Being a life-long learner is important to us in faith and as teachers.  We need to want to bring best practices into our faith as well as into our classrooms and school

 

Have a thoughtful day.

 

 

 

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Experience = Knowledge

We all come from a different set of experiences.  So when we look at a situation; we each see different solutions and outcomes.  When we look at our students, for example, we see different things in each of them based on OUR experiences with them.

 

We all face challenging students and need to change our mindset towards these children that we find difficult.  Perhaps it isn’t they who are the issue perhaps it is us.

 

One thing I learned last week at the conference was that we need to look at the behaviors we want to foster in our students and teach those behaviors because MAYBE those behaviors we value in the best students were never modeled to the “worst” students.  TEACH them. Model those behaviors, meet the students where they are.  Then you can bring them to where they need to be.